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Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "A man should not propose 1 over his brother’s proposal until he marries or withdraws." Agreed upon. Al-Tahawi narrated from Fatimah bint Qays: When I became permissible, I came to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and mentioned that Mu‘awiyah ibn Abi Sufyan and Abu Jahm proposed to me. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "As for Abu Jahm, he does not put down his staff from his shoulder, and as for Mu‘awiyah, he is a pauper with no wealth. Marry Usamah ibn Zayd." She said: I disliked it, then he said: "Marry Usamah ibn Zayd." So I married him, and Allah placed goodness in it, and I was pleased with him.
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Commentary and footnotes (3)
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(1) The statement: "A man should not propose over his brother’s proposal, etc.": The prohibition according to the Hanafis is only after acceptance; otherwise, it is not, based on Fatimah bint Qays’ Hadith, where she mentioned that three proposed to her, and he did not object to some proposing over others. According to others, the prohibition is absolute. This is the summary of what Al-Tahawi said in "Sharh Ma‘ani al-Athar."
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(۱) قوله : لا يخطب الرجل على خطبة أخيه إلخ : المنع عند الحنفية إنما هو بعد الركون، وإلا فلا، لحديث فاطمة بنت قيس حين أخبرت أنه خطبها ثلاثة فلم ينكر دخول بعضهم على بعض، وعند غيرهم المنع مطلقا، هذا حاصل ما قال الطحاوي في شرح معاني الآثار».
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ف: واضح ہو کہ حضرت فاطمہ بنت قیس رضی اللہ عنہا کی حدیث کی وجہ سے احناف کا مسلک یہ ہے کہ شادی کی نسبت طے پا جانے کے بعد کسی کو طے شدہ پیام پر پیام کی نسبت بھیجنا منع ہے البتہ نسبت طے نہیں ہوئی ہو تو ایسی صورت میں پیام پر پیام بھیجا جا سکتا ہے۔ جیسا کہ امام طحاوی نے شرح معانی الآثار میں فرمایا ہے۔12